I'm an artist of a pet adoptable website. I've worked with other artists on making different stuff before, but there's this one artist I really liked working with. But whenever she brings in a third person, and if I disagree with the way she wants to handle something, her first point of call seems to be "Fine, I'll just take out the work you did on the art."
This has happened twice now, most recently a few days ago. I'm feeling a bit used for lack of a better word. I feel like as soon as another artist comes along into the project, my work is tossed aside. I honestly feel like my work is some kind of consolation prize rather than work to be respected.
I really love this person in that she's my best friend online, so of course I don't want to hurt her feelings. But I feel like in doing so, I'm crushing my own. I don't really want to work with this person anymore but I feel like if I tell her that, she'll get all offended and the whole thing will snowball.
Any advice is appreciated.
EDIT: Thank you very much for your advice and kind words. I've decided the best course of action was to cut ties with the place entirely. TBH I was getting pretty tired of the festering drama in that place. Thank you again :)
This has happened twice now, most recently a few days ago. I'm feeling a bit used for lack of a better word. I feel like as soon as another artist comes along into the project, my work is tossed aside. I honestly feel like my work is some kind of consolation prize rather than work to be respected.
I really love this person in that she's my best friend online, so of course I don't want to hurt her feelings. But I feel like in doing so, I'm crushing my own. I don't really want to work with this person anymore but I feel like if I tell her that, she'll get all offended and the whole thing will snowball.
Any advice is appreciated.
EDIT: Thank you very much for your advice and kind words. I've decided the best course of action was to cut ties with the place entirely. TBH I was getting pretty tired of the festering drama in that place. Thank you again :)
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From there, the ball's in her court. If she chooses to change the way she's behaving when this stuff happens, then great! That is a good step for your friendship. However, if she chooses not to change anything about it or doesn't seem to care if it's causing distress for you, then I say it's all the better that you approached her on the matter. Really, you should not have to deal with feeling like this all the time. Even if it's a collaboration or a trade, fair is fair, and everyone should be treated with respect.
Sometimes you have to deal with unpleasant stuff like this, and I'm sorry it's giving you some anxiety about what to do. Just know that by trying to fix the problem now, you're saving yourself more potential distress, even if the next little while is unpleasant. You can do it :)
Everyone has posted great advice so far, so I hope this works out for you!
Remember, it's not a crime to say 'no' to someone, even if it's a person you thought was your friend. Don't be afraid to exercise your right to decline!
If you explain all this to her and things DO 'snowball', well...you'll have discovered that attitude now, rather than several projects down the line when you've invested even more time and energy and frustration into things.
As a friend - don't be afraid to let her know your feelings, just do it in a polite way. If she doesn't at least acknowledge how you feel, she's not really your friend.
I hope it doesn't get to that point, but they are a few things worth considering. Hopefully your friend will be receptive, but she's not, you have to figure out when you're willing to cut your loses.
Also, what exactly is your complaint with this other artist? When I've seen adoptable pet stuff it doesn't seem like it takes a lot of working side-by-side.