Back in December of 2008, I had a trade with Kaku/Spookaboo. He wanted toys and gifts for Christmas time, and in exchange I was to get some art from him. The deal was for me to get an icon, two digital pieces (one flat colours, one fully coloured), a watercolour piece, and three keychains in exchange for some anime toys, books and goods. I cannot recall what all I sent; however, I do remember some manga, a large plush, doujinshi, and an older iPod that was used and had a pretty short battery. He was okay with this; I let him know the condition before sending it. I even sent a link to a place where the battery could get replaced for fairly cheap. He was offering Holiday bundles of art, and I think we did a kind of custom one equal to what I was sending. Again, not exactly sure since it's been so long.
(http://pics.livejournal.com/tornaderman/pic/0001y1g0/ Journal with the holiday bundle art packages.)
Sadly, my old Livejournal name where the notes on the trade took place has been deleted, so I do not have that as proof; however I do have the beginning of our transaction in this journal:
http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/549296/ (screencaps: http://pics.livejournal.com/tornaderman/pic/0001x9gx)
Not too long after I did receive my icon. However, after that, things started to get a little rough.
I didn't message him again for a while because I didn't want to be annoying or anything like that. I wanted to give him plenty of time to work. I did poke him a few times, but again, I don't have those notes any longer. In April 2009 I got the second piece due, a full coloured and shaded digital piece.
Again, I gave him time to work, messaging every few months probably. I try not to message too often because I don't want to come off as rude or obnoxious. He still took quite a few other commissions, and gift arts, doodles, but I just waited.
Sometime later Kaku did become ill, and I understand how that can effect someone's work, so I tried not to bother him too much at all during this time until he was doing a little better. I had a relative who went through cancer and chemo treatments, so I know it can be really hard, so of course I don't expect him to work when he's doing poorly. When his art did pick up some, I messaged him again about the commissions he owed. He said he forgot about them; eh, that's kind of rude but understandable. Now that he knows, maybe he can work more when he's feeling better.
May, 2010, he posted journals on FurAffinity about people who he still owed commissions to, and I left a comment letting him know I was still waiting. I wanted to ask him if I could change one of my keychains to an icon that he was taking commissions for.
( http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/1413047/ screenshot: http://pics.livejournal.com/manage/pic?id=55 ) Sometime before this I got the second digital piece, I just can't remember exactly when. It's not in his gallery and I can't find it in his journal anymore.
I let him know that he still owed me three keychains and a watercolour, but I would be okay with swapping those for something else like icons. He said an icon would be okay for one of the keychains. I asked what else he was up for doing/what I could swap the rest with, but I had no reply.
He did a lot of the popsicle icons, but took yet another break. He had some chemo. Okay, that's fine. I'll just wait a bit longer. I only messaged him when he seemed to be doing well or asked in a journal. We're friends on facebook, and I hadn't noticed anything about chemo treatments lately, on top of posting art and some costume photos. I thought I'd message him again yesterday. At this point I am getting pretty frustrated since I've been waiting quite a long time. I feel like I'm just being ignored. It's coming up on three years and I've gotten three out of seven pieces, while he's had all the traded items in possession since 2008.
Here's the exchange of notes since yesterday. I have them all put together here, but I've also put them up individually here if you'd like to see them that way: http://pics.livejournal.com/tornaderman/gallery/00008qrq
I'm not sure what else to do at this point. I've been polite and patient up until now. I admitted and apologized to him for sounding mean or rude, but I'm really not sure what else to do and I've lost my patience. I feel like I should be refunded for the work I never got, since I can't get the items back since he gave them away as gifts.
Am I being unreasonable? Am I wrong here? I know he's sick, I totally understand that, but if you have time for doodling, you have time to work on commissions, I think. Especially after this long of a wait. Previously I've asked him what I could exchange the key chains and watercolour for but he never replied. I feel that even if I tell him what else I'd like, I would just be waiting even longer.
I feel terrible having to post him here, especially since we were friends, but, at this point I feel I have no choice. Should I possibly ask for art instead of a refund? Am I asking for too much?