Up until this point I have maintained tolerance and tried to patiently wait for something positive to come from all of this. I have offered far more chances than I should have for Faolan to do the right thing, and she has not. My tolerance for years of excuses and lack of response is gone.
This all started about five years ago, give or take.
Faolan and her mate were going to act as agents for me at a con they were attending. I sent inventory of jewelry and other items I had created their way. Time for the con came and went and I just wanted my things returned. Some problems came up that delayed them getting the items mailed back.
We were actually good friends back then, so I didn't sweat it much. I just asked she send the inventory back when she had the chance. I even offered to pay shipping but she felt bad and assured me her and
her mate would handle it. Then things got quiet. I let it go, perhaps longer than I should, and when I finally decided to ask again she gave various excuses each and every time. I brushed it off because
I'm a pretty easy going person.
At a few points they were having some hard times in life and I didn't want to press anything because hey, we all have years from hell. So I played the part of a good friend and didn't question her honesty or
integrity because I thought we were friends, and friends don't do that to each other.
Eventually though I told her it had been too long. There was no way I could account for where that jewelry may have been in the year or more that had followed (ie the sanitary status/cleanliness ), if she even still had it. So I told her she could pay me for it instead which basically meant she could do whatever with it afterwards.
Overall it was $375 she owed, for a combination of the merchandise and some web design and graphics I did for her ages ago. As a compromise, I offered to let her do a payment plan, where she'd give me whatever she could over time rather than the whole lump sum all at once, as I didn't want to cause more of a financial burden than she already had.
At one point when I responded to a random journey entry totally unrelated to anything about her owing me money. It was actually about herbal medicine and had no mention of money till she brought it up. She responded to me saying she knew she owed me the $375 for everything and that she had sent a check. She went on to say it was not cashed or anything. I told her at that point it may be best to stop payment because I never got anything in the mail. She swore she sent it. I told her to stop payment and just send a new check. I found out later there was a supposed 'miscommunication' between her and her mate. The money she had supposedly put aside to send me, had been spent by him for video games and other electronics equipment such as a new car stereo. I told her at that point she should find a way to get me what she owed me. Even if she had to borrow it from her parents and owe them money instead of owing me money. After that point she started ignoring all methods of contact I tried.
Long story short, far too many excuses later and then her turning a cold shoulder on me and ignoring me completely, I never heard back and never got any of my stock back from her or got any compensation for my
work or the loss.
I even went so far as to send an invoice in the mail requesting payment for the merchandise as well as some form of compensation for the hassle it put me through because I had to buy new supplies and redo an entire merchandise line, but still never heard anything after that.
I have saved screen shots from the journal entry where she promised she had sent a check for $375, both from original file several years ago and going back to the same entry I made a copy of it showing the current journal style and date comparison. I also saved an AIM conversation we had where she admitted what really happened to the money she owed me.
I have had enough to deal with trying to put my life back together after Hurricane Katrina. During that time this problem went on the back burner. Recently as I was able to get more involved in the online world again, I heard mention that other people were having problems with Faolan owing them money as well, but that those issues had been resolved.
At this point I figured maybe things were finally on the right track for her. I was aware she'd gone through a lot of life changing events but overall it seemed like she was back off on the right foot. So I decided to try and contact her via email. I wrote her as cordial a letter as I could expressing my feelings and that I was willing to give her one last chance to show good faith, even if she only sent me $20 at a time. As long as she sent me something. I requested she respond as soon as she read the email, just so I knew she had seen it, and warned her this was the last time I was going to be cordial about the matter.
She responded to me one time, wanting to confirm my PayPal information and said that she and her mate were going to talk things over and figure out how to get it taken care of, but that she wanted the PayPal info so she could start making payments when payday came. I accepted this and gave her all the information she needed. I requested she keep in contact and give me updates on what was happening.
I have heard nothing since. I tried emailing her once more. The last email just mentioned that I was concerned I hadn't heard from her because it had almost been a full month at that point. I asked her to give me an update because by that time either her or her mate had to have had a payday. I again provided my PayPal information, just in case. I asked her to respond letting me know she received the email. Since it was sent I noticed she has updated her LJ and Myspace (though they must be private entries) within the past three days or so. Considering that email seems to be her primary for everything I have no doubt in my mind that she has seen the email, she's just reverting back to her old track record of offering excuses or empty promises and then avoiding the problem.
Several friends who have known about this since it first started, and a handful of others who were only made aware of it more recently suggested enough was enough and it was time I made a post here about this situation. Has anyone else ever had such an agitating situation with a large sum of money involving a person you thought of as a good friend?
Thanks for taking the time to read.